Dealing with this off and on - I want to accept, I want to have a "come as you are" attitude around my partner's need for a lot of validation from multiple women and I do understand that I, a singular woman, will never be able to provide "enough" of this for him and I also recognize that this has 0 to do with anything lacking in me. However, knowing that he spends so much of his time thinking about/seeking out/plotting/planning/flirting/making dating profiles etc. to find more and more women to get that self esteem boost from gives me the ick sometimes (and yes I'm sure sexual variety plays into this desire as well, but by his own admission he is primarily driven by self esteem issues/validation/knowing he's "still got it").

Is this a "the call is coming from inside the house" situation and coming from my own insecurities? Has anyone else ever felt this way? I want to be supportive and not act like a judgmental douche and sometimes I really feel like one.