Long story short....

My (30F) husband (M 29) and my boyfriend (M46) have been in this dynamic for over a year, encouraged by my husband as a branch off from his cucking kink. I first got into the dynamic for my husband and then realized I am in fact poly and loved being in a relationship with two people. It's been a wonderful year. In January, my boyfriend proposed the idea of starting a family. My husband was all for it. Fast forward to now, I am 5 weeks pregnant and my husband has now suddenly changed his mind and saying how unless I move to a different state with the baby and start over there with him and our son (5), he doesn't see a way he can be with me. My family think I should have my boyfriend sign over his rights and have my husband adopt the baby. My boyfriend is not for that. He wants to help raise his child even though he isn’t wild about the dynamic (he wants me all for himself and only deals with the dynamic because he loves me).

Yes, it is 100% my boyfriends.

I'm so frustrated because he encouraged me to be in the dynamic, and then encouraged and supported me having a baby with my boyfriend. Now he is mad at me for it happening and is threatening leaving me and making me feel like I'm in the wrong for doing exactly what he supported and wanted me to do. My husband says he’s resentful feeling like I’m choosing the baby over him and my son and didn’t think I’d keep the baby, which I want to do, and as a result it’ll impact our finances coparenting and having another child and prevents us from having any more of our own since he doesn’t want 3. He also said it’ll make his life a living hell for him with his family.

I'm not really sure what l'm asking for here. Just heartbroken.