My BF and I have dabbled in the FFM swinger lifestyle and we’ve both loved all the women we’ve met and dated together so far ☺️ I’ve also been a unicorn myself in the past for a few couples.

The other night however, we were supposed to meet a 30y.o. woman for drinks at the bar. I had met her out before and we exchanged numbers and she was interested in joining me and BF. Soo that night I accidentally sent her the wrong address at first so we found out after she arrived. The correct address was 10min away, but she threw a fit about it. So when she finally comes to the right bar, I’m excited to get to finally talk all together (as I had been the one to meet her prior and get her number). That’s until about 2 minutes into the conversation… she is overbearing and doesn’t really pay attention to me, but instead my BF.

She says she’s never been with a girl before ever but is curious to try it and I’m beautiful etc. But it feels like her attraction for me is fake and my BF and her are flirting. My BF mentions that I’m finishing my last semester of school… she asks if I’m in high school… I blush, laugh nervously and say I’m in college. My BF laughs and they continue talking. Watching them and her comment made me nervous so I start to drink. At one point there’s an awkward silence and then she says my nails look trashy and sad. (Just got my acrylics off). This makes me self-conscious as we are planning on potentially being intimate and I couldn’t do anything about it. Moreover, she then started showing BF her nails. That broke my composure and I started to tear up. BF chuckles and says men don’t really look at or care about nails. BF tried to console me but I excused myself to restroom to wash my face and recollect.

When I come back to the table, I drink more to try to relax. I end up asking for another drink and chug that one down. At that point I’m starting to see blurry, but also feel better. Then the girl offers me the rest of her drink and after that I start to full cry. I felt awful for drinking so much and that BF didn’t defend me or stick up for me when I was obviously uncomfortable and she was disrespectful.

So BF tries to console me again but I try to walk away from the table and fall over because I don’t realize that I’m disoriented. He says goodbye to her and helps me to the car. The entire time he is fuming and telling me to pull myself together. In the car I start to bawl and then go home to cry in bed pillows for a couple hours. I wake up in the morning and BF is angry at me and the scene I made at the bar. He says that was dramatic overreaction and it’s impossible for me to be drunk from 2.5 drinks. I “acted that way for attention”. When I tried to explain why it started, it all just turned back on me…

For reference I am 115lbs, 5’10”, and on anti depressants. He thinks I need help, while I think the episode was due to too many drinks. I feel like SHE was the problem to begin with. This makes me mad at my BF that I’m the problem. I know I could have handled it better but I didn’t know drinks would make me more emotional - if anything I thought it was the opposite. Any advice on how to move forward would be greatly appreciated. Ofc I want to take a break from throuples and focus on us for now, but it breaks my heart that BF was so unsupportive of me and wasn’t there to take care of me.