I have been with my partner for almost six years. Last year, for about 3-4 months, was the first time he got medicated for ADHD again while we were together. During that time, his libido and confidence sky-rocketed, and he became fixated with finding new partners and texting those new partners whenever possible.

I know NRE is something you have to put up with for up to two years, but nonmonogamy became his hobby. I'm a cuckquean and don't experience jealousy, so you would think I would love suddenly being thrown to the wayside because of the kink , but it's actually a turn-off and makes me feel disinterested in him. It would be fine if we were fwbs or just friends; what bothers me is feeling like I need to commit to a relationship that feels very casual to me and overall one-sided. I don't want my boyfriend to stop me from finding my future spouse, y'know? Lol

I brought up my feelings about his behavior, and he says that's how he is when he's more confident for the first time in awhile. He doesn't shut me down or ignore me when I ask for quality time, but I don't like making so many multiple requests for attention because I'd rather he be himself and do what or who he wants to do.

Does anyone else have a partner who acted like this after being medicated? How long did it last? My partner is off his meds for now because he lost access, but I can't help but feel like I'm wasting his and my time by staying when I know I'm not interested in the version of him that is medicated.