They had one hook up with someone from tinder. This was casual when they decided that their second hookup would be group sex.

You are being really weird here.

If I have group sex that I didn't enjoy, I dont have to do it again. Or have sex with anyone again.

I think these are very young people exploring hook ups and casual group sex who are just flitting around. Not master manipulators and hapless victims.

Ok now. Hold on. These people had sex twice. Telling someone they are amazing during sex and then deciding after another (one or several or even a decades worth of) sexual experiences you no longer want to continue isn't shitty. It doesn't mean anyone lied. It means they don't want sex a third time and they aren't going to consent to more sex. People are allowed to say no to sex.

You'll be ok. I promise.

I've cried like a baby over rejection. It's so visceral.

Fair enough. Was looking for a brightside.

Did you want to connect again with the threesome friend? Maybe that connection will flourish.

Was OP "roped"? Is anyone sure of a connection after one instance of sex.

I guess meant further sexual connection or threesomes. Sorry if that's gross.

Where did this person tell OP their intentions were a long term thing?

Sure - and you'd communicate that immediately after said experience via text message?

No. I'd lead them on for two weeks and ask them to meet parents and then end it.

/s

I wouldn't text the same night. But I would engage in a fake time of feigning interest. That's psychotic. OP didn't specify the time frame either.

If this is something you know about yourself, then you communicate that. It's pretty wild how some people just go "well, that's how it is" justifying shitty behavior.

Ending something after two fucks isn't shitty. Its totally fine.

I'm absolutely fine with casual connections, but you lead with that expectation when connecting with somebody. If you know that this is something that you do, then you should be upfront with that information. So someone can make an informed decision on if they're cool with connecting with somebody in a casual manner.

What gave you the idea something OP described as a "tinder hookup" was presented as anything other than casual.

You are either hurt from being dumped and seeing bad behavior everywhere or don't believe casual sex is acceptable. You arent helping OP.

Honestly, this is something for therapy.

It was handled clumsily.

Please don't refer to someone as shitty for deciding not to have sex with someone again.

Thats the opposite of consent focused culture.