Lemme just get to the nitty gritty. Non Monogamy ain't your issue.

Woah...don't click out yet. Read me out...get it, read me out...like hear me out...It was funnier in my head. Don't judge me! 🤣🤣🤣

The only reason you're having issues, is because there is someone else in the picture showing you that you have issues.

Whether your relationship is monogamous or non monogamous, you would still have these issues. With monogamy you get the privilege to be obtuse and ignorant to the issues. With non monogamy you really don't. I mean, if you wanna keep your relationship happy and healthy anyway you don't.

Allll that jealousy...

Allll the envy....

All the sad, the mad, and the hurt....

It's not Non Monogamy babes, its un met needs. It's shit communication. It's a twisted sense of self. (I'm just picking random things I've seen from threads in here. Insert your own thing that's relevant to your life.)

Monogamy would have those same unmet needs..

The most important thing to gather from this, is that you ain't crazy, you aren't unfit for non monogamy, you're just realizing things that you need to do. Some things are up to your partner, some are up to you.

If you're feeling anxious your partner is on a date and you're home alone, it's time to find some new and cool hobbies, or new friends! Or, if you're like me, smoke some delicious herb and cllleeeaaaannn. Bleach is a hell of a distraction. (DO NOT CLEAN YOUR BATHROOM WITH IT, WITH THE DOOR CLOSED! Advice from...a friend. Yeah, we'll call it that 🤣🤣🤣)

If you need a heads up, ask for it. (Be mindful that shit in life happens sometimes at the speed of light on crack, so, be malleable with heads up agreements, for your sake if nothing else, but it makes your partner less anxious too.)

If you need cuddles before dates, ask!

Learn the art of finding the middle ground.

Demand your worth in your relationships. History does not excuse toxicity. I repeat. History does not excuse toxicity!

It's not Non Monogamy. You aren't crazy. You're learning and different relationship style, and you're working out the kinks that have shown up because of it. Yeah sure, Monogamy would eliminate the issues being seen, sure. With no extra people, whose gonna show you the issues right?

But...the issues are still there. They're just hidden. Do you really want that? Just some food for thought.

Thanks for coming to my TED talk. 🤣 Hope it helped.