Seeing my partner with someone else has been a long time fantasy of mine, way before I met my current bf. I’m not sure why, but I often have to fantasize to my bf cumming inside someone else to get off. I don’t actually want him to cum in anyone but I think a 3sum or mfmf would be resllt hot to try. I trust him and his love; and our sex is AMAZING, no doubts there. But I’m also worried about jealousy of seeing him enjoy someone else and forgetting about me.

We have talked a lot about this. We have a date coming up with a couple. I should add this is something I told him I wanted and initiated for, so he’s not pushing to sleep with others or anything. He’s happy to try if I want to. I started thinking about me with the male, and him enjoying her and not paying attention to me and I felt hurt. Like he will forget about me and get lost in this other person. What I want is a shared experience that we have together. He reassured me; saying I’m the love of his life, he would never leave me feeling neglected or forgotten, I’m his main focus, I’m his (we have a D/ s dynamic). He also said he wants to have us both together at times. He even suggested if I’m not comfortable with the other man, I could just play with the female and we please each other. So he’s saying all the right things and I actually felt much better after.

Even though I feel really good about this, I’m scared of the what ifs. I love this man with my whole heart, I think he’s the one, and I dont want to lose him. What measures can I take to protect us? What if even though it sounds amazing, I see him entering her and everything changes? What if I can’t recover? How do you handle the what ifs?