My boyfriend and I (both 23) have talked in the past about finding another woman to be in a triad with, but after a short stint of searching and a few trials, we never quite found the right fit for a variety of reason (sexual incompatibility, ethical issues, miscommunication etc).

Recently he's come into a bit of money through inheritance. It's not huge or particularly life changing, but it's enough that combined with his savings he can take a year off and go backpacking, possibly extending it to two years with a working visa in Australia. I plan to join him for shorter stints as and when I can afford it.

He sat me down this morning and suggested we open the relationship up whilst he's away. For the record, he's suggesting this almost entirely for my benefit as he knows about my hypersexuality and bipolar and that not being able to have sex will be bad for my mental health.

So we set some ground rules and I want to know if there's anything we have missed.

• Safe sex and regular testing are a given.

• Prior notice of sexual activities, or just intent of sexual activities, is preferred, but bue to both the nature of my bipolar and his travelling, time differences etc, spontaneity is allowed, but we still have to let each other know it happened after.

• If possible we will let each other know exactly who we have seen.

• Friends with benefits are fine, but we can both veto the others fwb if we feel it is becoming too intimate. We must let them know about the whole situation too. We also agreed on no multi night stays with any fwbs, and that includes him consistently sharing beds with someone on his travels (in the event he makes friends and they decided to travel together etc).

• Honesty about feelings and emotions. If we ever have any doubts, feelings of jealousy etc we make it known and talk to each other ASAP.

• We will look at the logistics of meeting with a couples counselor via zoom on a semi regular basis. Preferably one who specialises in ethical non-monogamy.

• We will open the relationship up before he goes away to run a test trial of it. During this it we won't be bringing anyone back to our apartment and everything will be pre-arranged, as we have each other for spontaneous sex.

• We're going to let our friend groups know as well, that way he doesn't have to worry about his friends thinking I'm cheating whilst he's away if they see me with someone else.

We were struggling to think of anything other ground rules we should have. We're both very much on the same page, we generally don't have any issues or negative feelings and are good at talking things out when we do, we have engaged in both mmf and mff threesomes numerous times and there's never been issues there (well not with us/our emotions anyway).

My only worry is that he's much less experienced than me. Due to the aforementioned hypersexuality and bipolar I was dangerously promiscuous from 13 onwards and it's only since being diagnosed at 18 and then meeting my bf that I managed to control myself. He was very cocky and selfsure when we met, but it was all bravado to hide his inexperience.

I don't doubt he will find willing women as he's tall, handsome, in shape, funny and charming, I just worry that he might stumble initially and it knock his confidence. I also worry that as he's travelling he's not going to have access to a consistent pool of potential sex like I will. I have stated both these concerns to him and he assures me everything is fine.

Does anyone have any suggestions of other things for us to consider that we haven't thought about? Thanks.