Back on the Stone Age when I was in my 20s, (1880s, I mean 1980s) I didn’t have a steady girlfriend for most of that decade.
I dated people. Sometime I had sex. Sometimes not.

Sometimes we would get out of touch, get back together, be friends, maybe have sex. (Different folks.)

I visited a former girlfriend who had moved to another state a few times. We usually had sex.

The concept of non-monogamy didn’t occur to me back then. I just called it dating, or being single. I didn’t have what I would have called a “steady relationship” because I didn’t want to be tied down to one person seemingly forever. Many of my friends lived similarly.

I read a lot of posts here where young people describe themselves as solo-poly or something similar. And what they are describing seems similar to me back then. Is it just modern terminology I didn’t have?

In between my two long-term marriages I reverted back to this enjoyable way of living for a couple years until I married current second wife 20 years ago and went monogamous with her until a year ago.

I don’t know why I feel this important to ask now. Maybe to convince myself that my current (vastly different) situation of being married and dating outside is some kind of long awaited return to a long held internal true psyche?

Or maybe is it looking for evidence that humans are by nature non-monogamous and society really straight jackets us into believing otherwise?

Doesn’t really matter I guess. I’m having the time of my life right now. (Wife is too).

Thanks for reading. Namaste all.