For context, me (m28) and my gf(f26) have been looking around and fooling around online. We are together For 8 years, and the love is still strong.

But I am struggeling. For her meeting new people comes easy, being a lovely looking lady, out to have fun. I cant blame anyone For falling For her. Been there myself For the same reason.

But for me its been the total oppeside and I feel like I am falling behighed and can't get my feet of the ground at all. Every atempt falls flat, I disapoint or get called a cheater. Even if she is in the same chat.

We live in the Nederlands, she is poly, me not so much in the love department, more looking for fwb and friends to be sexual with in general. Totaly fine with her having other partners, and I kinda want the same thing. Its all still fairly new to me, but I am explorering. Her being a cuck helps with that, so mening flirting with other girls is amazing fun but also helps get her off, filling both my parts For gratification.

Issue is I cant find anyone or I am looking in the wrong places or in the wrong way. I have some one-off moments and chats, but no idea how to make a propper tinder/any better places For a fwb/kinky friendship. I have no idea how to start it all.

What are some good resources For a man new to thisbwhole world and explorer savely and not break anyrules or hartbreak?