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I'm curious for those of you who have regular lovers who you see once or twice a month and there is an actual friendship/lovership there...how important is it for you that you trust them to be truthful about their lives and preferences?
I'm curious about this in the context of nonmonogamy where you know this isn't a life long thing.
I've been seeing my lover for 1.5 years and at about the 1 year mark it became very clear he is a people pleaser. Now I often struggle with phrasing things and even with asking for what I want...because I know he will do it even if he doesn't want to.
Yeah. OUR relationship is ethical, and I guess I'm just a bit stuck on whether he's someone whose story I can be in at all.
What would you think about past cheating, like a lot of it over the course of years and their partner still not knowing?
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Thanks for this. I feel he has started blaming me for not being a mind reader but he doesn't use words and people pleases. And then I find that really hard. I also know he lies to his spouse a lot so that makes it hard.