Hi all! So totally curious on this and the "proper terms." Currently in an ENM relationship (we're semi-new to it).

My partner and I are each other's "main" and then we have a 3rd friend in on the fun (maybe more partners on the way), but we're all unsure on the "label" for them. Mainly they asked so they could have a singular word when explaining their relationship with us to others rather than explaining it fully each time someone asked lol.

So now here's the thing, I am a man, my partner is non-binary, and the 3rd is he/they.

I'm very comfortable in my sexuality and have fun involving the 3rd person, but I'm not sexually attracted to them (men/penis just don't do it for me, as much as I wish I was truly bi).

We'll have threesomes, there's certain things I'll do with everyone (ie. kissing/touching) because I know my partner really likes that and I'm not uncomfortable doing those things that make everyone happy. But aside from that, the 3rd partner is like a good friend to me who's part of the relationship. For my main partner, the 3rd partner is there as a good friend and sexual interested as well.

So riddle me this, what do we call the 3rd partner? 🤣

I've heard metamour thrown around, but wasn't sure if that was quite right since I'm involved with them directly as well. Also, we're not quite a throuple as they are a few towns over so we only get to see them ever so often.

Would love to hear peoples thoughts on this!