For context, my NP (28M) and I (25F) have been poly since we got together.

Recently I've become involved with a new partner (M25) and it's been a great experience. It is noticeable that my new partner and I have a strong connection but he is still civil with NP and we've sometimes engaged in threesomes, though we don't exactly aspire to be a solid triad of any kind.

Though somewhat recently I have been wanting to have more 1on1 time with new partner both in doing activities and intimately as well. I have a lot of 1on1 time with NP keep in mind; but when New partner and I are doing stuff sometimes NP will shove his way into it and take over a little bit. I would be fine with this if this was an agreed threesome, but it irritates me because I want that special bonding time to form with the new partner and I've been feeling like I'm losing the connection because NP often tries to dictate what we do.