Hello all.

My partner (20f) and I (19m) recently (about one month ago) opened up our relationship after thinking about it and talking it over for about a year. Right now we have a OPP in place for both people, though making out and grinding at parties and stuff is okay with opposite gender and unfortunately we sometimes are unicorn hunting for a bi m or f. In that situation with mutual play we are 100% okay without the OPPs.

Though in solo play the OPPs are in effect, we are both bi.

We are partially doing this in this manner because we know we have been conditioned to view same sex relationships/sex as less of a threat and want to work through that together.

Partially because it’s a big step to just dive striaght into sex with the opposite sex solo. And it seems like less of a big jump to work from kissing/grinding and touching opposite sex Infront of partner/with partner (if opportunity arises) to sex with partner and opposite sex to solo play.

My question(s):

In this case are our OPPs sexist or unethical?

Has anyone else slowly went into this? And if so what did you do to work through jealousy and social conditioning to fully open?

Are we going about this all wrong? (This one’s just more for validation)

TLDR: OPP in place to protect feelings for now how to work past for both partners, preferably together?