I’m (44F) married to the love of my life (44M). We are very content together, and we both casually date separately.

I’ve been seeing “Michael” (25M) for almost a year. We connect on all levels - physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. We have tons in common, great communication, and we have one of the best FWB relationships I’ve ever had. I see him occasionally in addition to several other amazing younger guys who I’m very into and have lovely ongoing partnerships with.

But there’s something about Michael, and I can’t stop fantasizing about him! He’s the kind of guy I would have LOVED to meet and fall in love with in my 20s. I don’t want or expect anything more than what we have, as I’m very happy with my life, primary partner and other partners.

So, what gives? Why can’t I get him off my mind? Any advice on how to let him go and not have him take up so much mental and emotional real estate? It’s super distracting and doesnt serve 😜