Wife and I have some experience with swinging (primarily couple swaps). We are exploring finding her a single male or two for MFM threesomes and solo hotwife adventures. She’s also bi and would love a bisexual solo female for FFM or even solo bi play. A topic came up in those conversations around the difference between solo “fuck dates” with FWBs that are primarily sex with maybe a drink before hand vs more of a dating scenario with an extended date or even an overnight.
The idea of the intimacy involved in a date or overnight makes her uncomfortable. She particularly is uncomfortable with me doing that since I tend to like the idea of a more romantic/intimate connection with partners. I love the idea of her connecting that way and I think it would make the sex even better.
Has anyone had a similar challenge and been able to navigate a compromise? She’s at least trying to explore why she’s anxious about that kind of connection (for me or her) but I’m just wondering if there might be more baby step ways of exploring or questions we should be asking ourselves to navigate the mental aspect of a more intimate connection with others.