Hubs and I participate happily in an ENM situation as well as swinging. We mostly play together, but he has a F friend he sees on occasion. A few months ago we decided I would seek a single M to maybe get an ongoing thing with. Well, because of our location (rural) texting and online is our 1st line of meet ups and then travel is required.

So I started chatting with the guy, I was honest that I am married, but looking for a fwb situation ongoing. We have had great converstions, he claims he in the lifestyle but as a single male but has experience with couples and is into it. He knows the clubs scene well, and definitely is familiar with language, respect, boundaries and open to conversations regarding all things intimacy. We have both regular day to day chats about work and things, but then also both participate in fantasy, really secualized conversations including sending pics back and forth.

Heres the thing.. its been 4 months, we keep texting but havent met up. The one time I was coming to his cuty, he was busy, hes never asked me to come visit. Weve barely even talked about meeting, other than me saying so maybe next time we can meet up.

Hubs at this point is saying whats the point, if you like this guy why havent you both made an effort to finally meet. I feel really open with this guy in terms of sharing desires and weve keep the mystery high by not sharing facs pics or details of where we work or live.

Part of me is now thinking this guy is probably married, a pic collector, just bored or a combo of all. But if im wmjoying the texting piece is it that bad to carry on? Or should I juts rip the bandage off and ask he is this going anywhere and see if he strings it along further. Hes a really nice guy, super sexy. Definitely sends too many shower dick pics but its fun having someone to chat with about the LS. Am I overthiking it or is this a waste of energy? Should be said hubs isnt insecure about this guy and me chatting, he just is good for helping me question if its real or why I would want to spend all this energy on someone who may never meet.