I’ve been in a triad for a little while now with a m 35 & f 31. We started off rather rocky after finding out things weren’t as wholesome as we originally thought. (cheating, lying omission) We decided to work through it and keep trying.

Fast forward to today we’ve been through so much bs specifically with our male partner. I feel constantly betrayed because no matter what he does my female partner immediately forgives him. When we are alone she has a lot to say and plots to save up and move out. She tells me she’s using reverse psychology on him by doing everything he demands.

(Like her texting and sending photos all day while she’s at work to prove she isn’t spending time with a guy she works with) to make him THINK he’s in control but that doesn’t make any sense.

Where’s the reverse part coming in? The more she does this the more he resents me and says im the problem, I’m disrespectful and i cause all of the pain and discomfort in our relationship. It sometimes feels like she’s capitalizing off of the situation and i feel very alone because i’m being blamed for my reactions. Being told that i’m manipulative but i’m not the one attempting reverse psychology?? I feel like i’m going insane.