A few months ago, my wife and I agreed that she should be free to date outside of our marriage.

I anticipated having to deal with my jealousy about her sexual intercourses with other guys, but it turns out I do not feel so bad about that as I get that as well, so to speak.

However, one of the parts of the arrangement she enjoys the most is to simply have "non-sexual" dates, like get to a bar after work, have some fun. She finds it mind-blowingly fun, as she can just forget about being a mom, and enjoy being a women - knowing I am there to pick up the kids from school, caring for them, cooking our meals for the next day and so on.

Overall, I enjoy our new way of living our marriage, she is visibly happier, it allowed/forced us to communicate better, and improve our life together in many ways.

However, I find myself being terribly jealous of not being the one able to spend those dates with her, and make her feel this way with me.

We tried to replicated this, but it is difficult to get it to work: getting a sitter adds to the bill, you still have to worry about the time to get home for the sitter, the sitter may call at any moment, and last but not least, letting go of your kids for a moment is not as easy with their father being your date :(

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I am looking for advice on how to overcome this jealousy before it becomes bittnerness and ruins the fun for both of us.

Thanks for reading I hope I made sense

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