Not looking for advice or debate. Just sharing a funny series of events.

Awhile ago, we were at a bar we've been frequenting. It's a cool, kink friendly spot and we know a bunch of people so it's always a good time. I (half jokingly half seriously) suggest my partner go talk to someone she finds attractive. We've been talking about being more adventurous and stuff. She said no because she'd rather wait for someone to approach her.

Fair enough. I already knew that. Worth a shot. Lol

So after chatting with our friends, I go to the bar to get another drink and I'm waiting next to a woman. We were both waiting awhile so I casually strike up conversation and we had a great chat where we find out we have a lot in common. When we get our drinks, I casually mention that I'm going back to my partner.

Crush says "Who?" and that's coincidentally the exact moment my partner is walking up to us. I was genuinely expecting this to be a quick talk before I went back to the friend group but plans changed.

So now all 3 (plus friends) of us are just having a good time talking. Partner thinks crush is cool, crush seems to be enjoying the company, and I'm just happy to be there. We leave soon after and tell crush that we'll see her there another time.

I must admit that crush was on my mind a little. She's gorgeous, funny, nerdy, kinda crazy, and goes for what she wants. I could only go by first drunken impressions but that's exactly my type.

I've been a nonmonogamous realist long enough to know not to get my hopes up. Not only do I hardly know her, but there's a possibility I'll never see her again. I push it to the back of my mind and move on with life.

A week later, we go to the same bar. Less of our friends are there but I genuinely enjoy the music so I don't need a crowd. After listening to the jams, I go to the bar to get a drink. As usual, there's a wait. That's fine. I got all night.

I turn around to ask my gf if she wants anything and guess who stole my seat and my gf's attention!? It was a pleasant surprise and we chat the night away getting to know each other better.

As we're getting ready to leave, crush and gf exchange numbers and we set a date to see a movie. While I want to talk to crush, i understand the process. I casually mentioned that we attended lifestyle clubs but never specifically said we're poly/enm, so crush probably took the safe route and connected with gf.

Honestly, I'm looking forward to getting to know crush in a sober environment where we don't have to yell lol. Even if it doesn't develop into more or there's incompatibility, I'm ok with gaining new friends.

But if it does become more, I'm gonna need that number lol