New here.

I F(34) been with M (36) for 7 years, known each other since we were 18. Went our seperate ways and reconnected and ended up getting together and having kids straight away (2, 4). We have not been good since pregnant with the second. Past year we said we aren't together but coparenting in the same house. We can be good friends at time but mostly neither of our needs are being met. We want to stay together for the kids and of course the cost of living. I love emotional deep talk, passionate sex and he does not like talking about feelings, or communicating and wham bam sex lol. And our sex life has never really been earth moving to begin with. We've spoken about swinging in the next few months but that doesn't solve my lack of emotional connection and just solves the sex. I miss deep relationships and the sex. And I know he misses his past life too. When we take the relationship out of it, we can talk and parent etc

Do you think opening up our relationship to get our needs met and staying as a family would work? Are there even people that would be with us in our situation?