A fantasy is usually hot and erotic, it starts more or less where you want it to start, and ends when you come. Reality is a little different.

Let me draw you a picture:

Unless you find someone in the wild or you know, you’ll usually have to do a lot of wading through profiles, trying to match with someone, talking with matches only to get ghosted by most of them before you finally find someone. Let’s say you’re lucky enough not to get ghosted when you arrange to meet, and you actually meet up and have that awkward first encounter, knowing you are going to get naked in front of this stranger. Who initiate, who takes the lead, who gets the game going?

Now that you are all naked you might discover that, oh no, the pressure of the situation has made a certain someone hide away (very common, particularly in the beginning, not to fret), but what do you do? Can you relax into using other parts of your body or will it stress you out and become your sole focus? What if it’s a MFM? Will you be ok seeing your wife be fucked by another man while not being able to partake yourself? Or will you call it quits on the night?

Let’s say all is working and you get going. How do you feel about passionate kisses with the person you’ve invited in? How will you make your wife feel included while you are balls deep in another woman? How will you feel when she moans as another man enters her? What if she comes with him? What if you come in the other woman? (And btw, have you read up on safer sex practices when doing threesomes?) What would you do if one of you have a jealous fit, how would you handle it so it’s not taken out on the person visiting your bed? And when the deed is done, do you cuddle with the third person? For how long? How do you end it?

And what do you do next morning? When you wake up and look over at your wife, remembering she had another man’s cock in her mouth last night. Do you kiss her? Do you look at her differently and wonder who she really is?

(Btw, it’s more likely you’ll have a MFM than a FFM.)