I bisexual, (31F) and have always been pretty oblivious to anyone showing interest in me. I’d go so far as to say I have an avoidant attachment style, and in the past anytime someone has been into me and I’ve clocked it, it’s caused me to pull away.

Now, there’s someone who is clearly interested in me and I’m also into them but when they compliment me it feels like I want to crawl out of my own skin. Excitement is there but also just a huge feeling of embarrassment.

I’m not sure what I’m really looking for here other than some reassurance or others who understand how I feel.

Some further background, I’m in a healthy long term relationship that is ethically non monogamous. I have a traumatic background and have spent the last several years healing from it but especially in the last year.

I have hooked up with others back when I was younger in the early phase of our relationship but back then I wasn't in a good place mentally and was seeking validation and self worth from those encounters. Since then I haven't been talking to anyone or looking for anything really.

I want to feel confident and not grossed out when I get consensual attention from interested parties.

I'll bring this up with my therapist soon, but wanted some personal experience input if possible. Thanks!