I am in an open LTR with full support from my partner. I met someone wonderful end of December. He came in at 100mph, showered me with attention and positive affirmation (which I so relished and loved) every single day. After I noted that we didn’t NEED to talk every day to hang out, he said he just wanted to do what felt good, and no pressure on any kind of communication either way. So I said to myself okay, I’m not gonna overthink it either. I leaned in. It felt nice. We talked every day. We saw each other every weekend for 7 weeks. He told me he was happy he’d met me, loved it when I slept in his bed, texted me every, and I mean every, night before we both went to sleep and said we wish we could cuddle each other can’t wait to see you again type gross gushy shit that normally id never even say but he was just so… idk… seemingly into it? And it felt nice. I sent him flowers at the 1 month mark thanking him for brightening my month. He’d hold my face and look into my eyes and kiss me like it meant something. We did cute dates together and cooked for each other and slept over and it just genuinely felt like a lovely time for both of us.

SO I THOUGHT.

Then last weekend he went out with a new person (fine with me), and she told him she only “dates one at a time” so he can’t see me anymore if he wants to keep dating her. SO HE DUMPED ME ON THE SPOT. After one weekend with someone else. I can’t fault him for wanting a monogamous relationship if that’s what he wants, but why waste all this time and energy with me, leading me on with all this mushy bullshit only to drop me like a hot rock for someone he doesn’t even know? We could have just hooked up casually, but instead he made it all intense and then bounced! Don’t you want to get to know a person a little before cutting off a relationship that’s clearly been really fun and lovely? Now obviously I’m not going to be back after this asinine shit.

I just…. What??? What just happened? I’ve got whiplash. I guess because I’m nonmonogamous with my NP this guy thinks I have NO FEELINGS?! What is UP with this. I’ll rally but hot damn…. Stings.