I'm in an ENM relationship with my lovely primary partner. He is incredibly reassuring, communicative and patient. But I feel conflicted sometimes about the fact that he is in love with another partner.

I don't quite have the same depth of relationships with the other people i see; they're more focused on physical intimacy than emotional. I know rationally our relationship is totally separate but i struggle with feeling jealous and intimidated.

For context, him and I spend most of our time together, go on trips together, actively talk about co-habitating and raising children together in the future.

I also struggle with anxious attachment which is worth mentioning. Does anyone have any advice on how to frame it to myself/come up with ways to think through it productively?

Last thing: would appreciate responses rooted in compassion. I understand some people have been living this lifestyle for a long time but I'm fairly new and still unpacking normative monogamous norms.