We have a very special connection. We fell in love and are deeply devoted to each other. We met only two months ago but have spent everyday together since. Feels like we are made for each other.

However, a stressor is that F28 is going to another continent for 11 months to study. Our connection is so special that we don't want to let this end because of the distance. She will come back as we live in the same home country. This was planned before we met (tuition fees sent etc.), so it's not an option to cancel this.

Both of us were single for almost 7 years before we met each other. And both of us enjoyed the variety of sexual and emotional partners during our single phase. Therefore, both of us thought we wanted an open or poly relationship to not put us into restrictions. Our initial idea was to do an open, long distance relationship for 11 months. And then probably open relationship in the same city once she is back.

However, now, after realizing how much we love each other, we are questioning if this is what we want. She has never felt so much love in her life and neither have I. We are so in love with each other that we cannot imagine being with others and may feel hurt if that happens.

Its Hard to choose either monogamy or non-monogamy. We don't want to feel restricted of our freedom, but we also do not want to feel hurt when the other partner chooses a third partner for intimacy.

Since none of us have recent experience with monogamy or non-monogamy, we don't know which one is better for us.

We are unable to choose. Right now, we feel like we would not put any label to our relationship and just see how it flows. 'go with the flow' and if it is meant to work out, it will.

Do you have any inputs?