Me (34f) and my wife (31f) recently opened up our marriage (about 6 months ago) and I’ve found myself in this place that, while I’m definitely all in - I’m still having some “feelings” seeing my wife form relationships with people outside of our marriage.

I’ve had a few short lived flings with folks, but she’s been seeing the same person for about 4 months now and they’re getting very close. Which, when I’m not emotional, I love to see and feel like I’ve very much come into a place of compersion.

That said, there are moments (like tonight) where those feelings get the better of me and I find myself having difficulty coping.

Tonight we took a new step in our relationship, my wife is having her first sleepover with her partner. We talked about it, I gave my blessing, and everything was fine until I found out they weren’t sleeping at her partners place, they were staying at a luxury hotel “as a treat.”

Apparently this was a last minute change of plans and it was communicated to me when she found out, but to a ay this has me feeling insecure would be an understatement.

My wife and I struggle financially, and I’m definitely feeling insecure about someone else “wining and dining” her in a way I’m not able to.

I’m doing my best to just chill - but I’m looking for advice from folks who’ve been in this longer than I have. How do you cope when these feelings arise?

I trust my wife, I love my wife, I want her to have a good time with her other partner but right now I am not feeling it and I just want her to come home.

Any advice would be appreciated. This post will likely be deleted at some point.