My Partner (f30) and me (m35) have a unwritten One-Penis-Policy - decided by her. After having dated another man, when we opend our relationship, and some very pushy guys, when we tried public sex at kinky-parties, she decided, that she doesn't need or want any other man, other than me. She is open to connect with other women however, when (in the rare occasion), the connection feels right.

Whenever we are asked to explain our relationship dynamic, people are confused, often the only question being: 'but doesn't she want to sleep with other men?' - with people being helplessly confused by our simple answer: 'no'.

Whenever asked, she confirms her happiness and satisfaction.

I am interested in knowing, if anyone else has something similiar and how you would value this kind of OPP, as mostly, OPP seem to be decided by the man in hetero couples and are heavily frowned upon.

For a little background: we are both bisexual. Though she is monogamish and I am poly. You are welcome to look into my post history if you are interested in more details.

Edit: Thank you for everyone for your opinions - clarification after reading from all of you: We have no OPP, but my partner has a openly-communicated, self-chosen and valid preference. People have simply 'cried wolf' on us, which is why I have asked for your perception/opinion in our situation.

We really only have two rules in our relationship: Commitment to the relationship is a personal choice, that actively needs to be renewed and commitment to communicating with each other.

As u/BiggsHoson2020 put it: a big nothingburger.

I was however still interested in a little discussion, to help my understanding, of OPPs always being set by the males (or not) and if there is any form of understanding towards them in general (out of curiosity - personaly I agree with their criticism, especially concearning their devaluation of the f-f-relationship).