My (33F) partner (38M) has expressed that he feels a threesome with me and another girl would be stressful as he'd be worried about me. So I've given him the greenlight to have threesomes without me, also because I'm not feeling super sexual at the moment. When I asked him, how would you feel if I had a threesome without you, he got upset because he said ideally he would prefer to do group stuff with me. My issue is I think I too would feel less stressed without him.

Is it a common thing for partners to engage in group sex separately? I just feel like if I was the unicorn, or coming into a threespme where no-one is partnered, I would feel better..if it was fmf with my partner, I don't know how I would feel being the one who is more left out, which I envision because it's never equal. We date separately and never hook up in front of each other, so doing group stuff separately also doesn't feel like a bad thing, but when we discussed this he got upset Help x