Hi friends - so ENM was my idea but my strong strong preference is don’t ask, don’t tell. I told my husband I just want to enjoy this tiny fraction of my life and I don’t want to have to worry about his feelings before, during, or after. He’s supportive of my desires but don’t ask, don’t tell gives him anxiety because he basically gives me the side eye whenever I walk into the house. Should I hold the boundary and give him more time to get comfortable with it? Or should I compromise?
Anyone push themselves out of the don’t ask don’t tell comfort zone?
Thanks. I’ll dig deeper. It’s really that I feel like I give and give and give all day long and just want to reserve a tiny fraction of my life that’s just for my personal enjoyment. My husband agrees in principle but doesn’t enjoy the “mystery” of DADT.
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Oh this isn’t about safety. He knows I don’t meet men on the internet. Any encounters have been and will be with long term friends where the friendship organically morphs into FWBs.