Hello. My(35F) partner(32F) and I have been together for a year, friends for 2 years before we got together officially. We had already discussed we wanted to start this as both our first non monogamous relationship. Boundary rules were discussed and we made sure we were on the same page in case one of us decided we liked someone enough to pursue. We live in a pretty small town and I have been here for 3 years. My partner moved in last March. the whole time I've lived here, I told them that the dating pool was rather small and it's been tough for me to find anyone else romantically interesting. That is usually not difficult for me to do so. Yesterday, my partner told me they were crushing on a coworker (40M). This did not bother me. I had met him before. Nice enough guy, no red flags on my end. But then I asked if she wanted an emotional, physical or both kind of relationship with the guy. She could not give me a straight answer. This is where I started to have some strong emotions which I couldn't quite articulate at first. Looking back, I know I set up some unrealistic expectations on my end. I was really hoping the first time this came up, we both could crush on them together and go through this first experience together. Unfortunately, that is not the case. I can't find a single thing attractive about him, even just for a physical experience. I know I'm jealous that I can't join in, but not jealous of the man himself. Also, without a clear answer of what she wants or him, I am having a hard time setting up my emotions to respond accordingly. I'm the kind of person who would act on these feelings, after discussing it with my partner. However, my partner is the kind of person to stew on these feelings for weeks and may not actually put any action behind it, and wallow in the crush emotions for a long time. I was the one to pursue my partner only to find out she had been crushing on me for at least a year. I asked her to please figure out what she wants sooner than later, and to talk to the guy to see where he stands in all this. I know this is her journey, but making me wait, possibly weeks or months, for an answer to see how to proceed as a supportive GF will drive me insane. Anyone have a similar experience? any advise or helpful comments? I really need to just type this out to to help review my feelings. Thank you for listening.