Will summarise as best as possible.

Myself [M36] and my partner [F26] have been together almost six years and had a lot of shared ENM experiences along the way (i.e fucking other people together). I’ve had some solo encounters as a third for a couple and she’s had one solo experience with a guy (where it was a ‘hotwife’ type experience and she filmed/sent me videos etc). An important detail here is that the guy she met was also ENM and partnered.

We are now looking to open up to meet people solo who are single etc. And for some reason I’m finding it really intimidating and feeling a lot of jealous, worry and insecurity.

I think my deepest fear is that she meets someone she really connects with and then leaves me (which I appreciate is..a stretch).

My jealous and worry is definitely affecting her and our experience. And arguably even my own pleasure, as I get turned on at the thought of her meeting people and then telling me about it/reclaiming her.

I’d love advice from people on how to cope better with those ugly feelings when they arise - and particularly best practice to keep my mind occupied when she’s on these encounters.