Fairly new to this but wondering - my (29NB) partner (30F) and I have been together for a year and it has been ENM from the beginning (at her suggestion but I’ve always been on board). We established some guidelines at the start but the most that’s happened is I’ve talked to people on apps and she’s flirted with people while out when I’m not there.

We recently had our first major disagreement about something unrelated that I wasn’t sure we could work past, and the relationship was very much on the rocks. In addition, we hadn’t had sex in like 3 months, something I brought up about a month ago and we had ideas on how to work on but hadn’t been able to implement them when we were apart this last month.

She chose this time, when our relationship was emotionally and physically unstable, to go on her first ever date with someone else and fluid bond with the guy.

This has led me to feel really hurt because it didn’t happen from a place of stability and felt like she was looking for something better. She says she didn’t think of that and it was unrelated, but I think it was in poor judgement even though it didn’t break any rules.

What do you think?