This is both a question but also a vent. For me quality time with my primary is being able to spend intentional time together, doing something that is either a shared activity that we love, something new or a date.

He doesn't really care that much. I make sure that once a fortnight we do something different, maybe dinner out, a gig, a date that breaks the regular mold of every day, because we live together. When I'm the one suggesting or planning this time, it grates on me in a way that makes me feel like he's not invested. The effort is rarely reciprocated. When i bring this up with him, he says that quality time and intimacy for him, is spent together when we're at our most relaxed, watching TV and laughing. But the thing is, we do that every night we're home together. This isn't intimacy to me, especially when he might message his other partner during this time, not to mention we rarely are physically intimate with one another. I'm at a point now where I feel like a bookmark, just someone there that he feels comfortable with, while he puts in the effort to arrange fun times with friends or his other partner.

For instance, for our 2nd anniversary, I arranged a sweet evening for the two of us that he loved, all planned by me. A few days later he suggested he'd take me out for dinner, but then he fell sick and we had Uber Eats instead. He said he'd take me out the new week (this week) but alas, he hasn't arranged it again and instead he's going on his date tomorrow night.

I feel like I wanna start investing my efforts more into others, I don't feel like he is excited by me anymore. It's only been 2 years and I know that's when things can change, but damn, I want to feel wanted, and not just a comfort.