I commented this thought in another sub and figured it may be good food for discussion in its own post.

Problem: Dead bedroom of several years in a 20 year marriage. Me (m62) spouse (f63). An isolated problem in that the rest of the partnership was always very strong.

We opened, and the dead bedroom was fixed. In fact after the opening discussion, we had sex right then for the first time in about a year.

In the ensuing year, the rest of the relationship dynamic has been actually strengthened, I mean the friendship/romantic parts.

We’ve both been exploring separately, had some adventures of varying degrees of involvement. Communicate about them at each other’s comfort level of detail, (which gets more intimate as time goes on, to my delight.)

Interested in thoughts or stories about other successes. Is the conventional wisdom incorrect?

Thanks to you all for the always interesting discussions here. ENM is the greatest thing ever.