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Is it genuine, or is it just FOMO?
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Me (M26) and my fiancĆ© (F20) have been together for 10 months and itā€™s been going mostly great. When we first started dating, we were both open - though we never actually slept with anyone else, but after a couple incidents triggered a lot of jealousy for her, I made the decision to close the relationship - at least for the time being. Itā€™s been about 6 months since then, and Iā€™m starting to wish I was in an open relationship again. Thereā€™s nothing otherwise wrong with our situation, but the idea of never being allowed to have sex with anyone else ever again is just very silly to me and Iā€™m beginning to feel like itā€™s a commitment I wonā€™t be able to keep forever.

But at the same time, is this just anxiety about missing out on something Iā€™m not actually missing? I mean, we have plenty of great sex - but I still desire variety and value a diverse sexual experience. At what point is it worth risking messing up something good for a more diverse life experience?

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The ā€œsheā€™s mature for her ageā€ take is setting off huge red flags for me. Sheā€™s barely out of high school, from your original post it reads like sheā€™s never dated anyone else, and you moved in together while she was still a teenager if the timeline of your post histories is lining up.

This might feel ā€œrightā€ for you, but I have qualms about whether itā€™s the best thing for her, monogamous or not.

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Just because sheā€™s experienced trauma, or been forced to a level of independence of people who are on average much older than her, doesnā€™t mean its right to push her to continue having experiences of older folks.

The reason everyone is focussed on the nature of your relationship, and not your question about ā€œFOMOā€, is because the question is moot for a relationship doesnā€™t seem to have sound foundations to begin with.

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