i’ll try to explain situation as short as possible.

We are open since last year, but no new partners until this point, My wife is Bi-curious but doesn’t want to actively look for new partners. She is into Cuckquean scenarios, she finds attractive and exciting the idea of me “cheating”, (for obvious reasons, she is aware of almost every “movement” i try, either when flirting or dating apps, i’m transparent with that matter and sometimes she helps me). We trust in each other blindly, and because of that. (and her kinks) jealousy its not an issue. I’m naturally not a jealous type person.

Now this is the situation, i was kinda lucky finding myself such a wonderful wife, and Finding a new FWB that meets ALL her standards, that is Ok with ENM, in my country is a little bit hard (we don’t want to be publicly an “open realtionship”, only our closest friends are know it).

I have this friend “L”, She is. mainly my friend, but its also a mutual friend. L doesn’t meet all wifes standards. When the conversation about including L in our sex life came up, my wife didn’t rejected it, but told me “whatever you do with her, i don’t want to know, but if you’re doing her, i don’t to hangout with her”.

During previous summer, we hanged out with her pretty often. Then due to L’s non related personal problems, she took distance from us. The last times i hanged out with her, we do had FWB intimacy and already started cutting out activities or 3 of us. Now She is reaching out to us again and i kinda feel a little bit guilty for hiding That particular aspect of my friendship with L, but that aspect is something i’ve been told to Not disclose. If my wife directly asked for it i would be honest, but until that happens, its something i have to hide. This is still ENM ?