Please redirect me to a better sub if needed, I wasn't sure where to post my question. I'm sorry mods :( the aubreddit for threesome advices looks so empty.

I (f30), generally speaking etero but with no problem having intimacy with a woman in group scenarios, and my best friend (f29,) lesbian with FFM experiences, were having a little chat regarding threesomes:

She's of the idea that women that aren't lesbian accept threesomes ffm ONLY to please the man, because of society standards, porn and misogyny. No exception, even myself I'm supposely just negating that I'm influenced by porn and submission to men. (as I like men lol)

As "normally" these women refuse to have sex alone with the same sex.

In my option, I do agree there are probably people influenced by said things, however not everyone must go under the same category.

I do enjoy group scenarios for all other reasons, not for the genitalia and body shape of the involved people. I do not feel I felt ever forced to have a FFM to please the man. I decided to have them because it's fun, it's intimate and I love sharing. I love being watched and watch.

But definitely having sex with a woman, alone, wouldn't bring me anything. I did it, and decided it.

I'd like to asks you general idea and opinions about this. Are all women unconsciously forced to have and want to have FFM for the male pleasure? Or there are actually people that enjoy it for other reasons, without feeling the need to be sexually intimate in a 1-1 situation with the same sex?

Same goes to other orientations: Does a lesbian need to be able to sleep with a man alone, and like it, just because she had a FFM? Same for gay men? Of any other gender, identity and orientation?

Again I totally agree that for sure there are people influenced by mainstream porn and patriarchy. But must be 100% all etero women on this planet?

Sorry if this doesn't make sense lol not good at writing in English

Thank you! ✨