Hello,

Im in a very happy long term relationship with my current wife F(32). We recently decided to open up our relationship. We’ve read the books tried to be thoughtful and have all the hard convos. It’s still all a work in progress.

I am on Bumble BFF as well as regular Bumble. Just trying to build my community as being a queer person in a smaller town we need friends. So I’ve been open to friendship along with new relationships.

I met someone 6 months ago who I really thought was just friend “vibes” but over time and as I’ve gotten to know her more I’ve developed feelings for her. I’ve expressed this to my wife and she doesn’t have tons of reservations just has brought up she doesn’t want me to lose a friend and also enjoys this persons company and friendship.

Im not sure if this person is Poly, we are still somewhat new in our friendship and I’m not quite sure how to even bring it up. Is this a situation where I should just straight up tell her my wife and i practice ENM to see how she reacts? Should I tell her there is a vibe and I have a small crush? Im just not sure how to move forward. I want to gently brooch the subject in a straight forward way, that is respectful to her and won’t ruin my friendship.