Hello all.

I have been having conflicting thoughts and I just want to ask and see if I can get perspectives from others who may have experienced or had someone ask them this.

I met a woman in August who is in an open relationship. I believe they have been with their partner 6ish years.

She shared this with me at the beginning when we matched on an app. It’s new territory for me but I am totally good with that.

We have seen each other a handful of times and when we are together, we have wonderful conversations and I genuinely enjoy any time I can get with her. Our sexual chemistry is off the charts as well.

When we aren’t together, our conversations are not too in depth and I am also good with that. I am single dad of 3 with full custody so my life is very full and busy.

One of the times we were together recently, we had a really open conversation about her partners. Not specifics, just overall how it works best for her and her primary partner.

She explained to me her primary partner is number one, which obviously I know, respect and understand.

She sees a handful of people regularly and said we all fall under her primary and are essentially on the same level, from my understanding.

Here is where I am starting to have some back and forth in my head..

I want to keep seeing her. It’s ideal and I sincerely enjoy our time together. (Just for context, I was married for 14 years in a monogamous marriage that ended a little over a year ago)

I guess my question is, can I speak to her about wanting to keep seeing her without ruining this?

I feel like I don’t want to ask her some thing that’s going to push a boundary and push her away and I would also respect exactly how she felt, no matter what it was.

I wanted to ask her if there are things I can avoid that would negatively effect what we have going on.

Is it pushing to even ask something this?

Thanks for reading.