After trying to get into the idea of a threesome, or having a second partner other than my husband (these are things he has expressed an interest in. He is submissive and has said he likes the idea of me having a boyfriend or girlfriend and making him wait on us) I realize I am just a monogamous person. I feel like I am monogamous the way I am bisexual, it’s not a choice. I’m not just monogamous due to lack of opportunity or to conform to a socially acceptable relationship or anything. Based on my experience while exploring this idea, it would be easy to find somebody to date or sleep with. I just, have absolutely no interest in it.

My husband has an emotional affair 2 years ago, and he says he didn’t even realize he was doing anything wrong at the time because he wouldn’t have any problem with me speaking to somebody else the way he was. After thinking so much about my own monogamy and his cheating I started wondering, could he just be non-monogamous by nature? Maybe he just can’t help that the way I can’t help being monogamous? And if so, is forcing him into monogamy for my benefit super fucked up and wrong? I’ve got myself all confused by everything.