My wife and I have been married for 10 years and are still 100% in love with each other. We've had a conversation around our sex life and she just isn't as sexually active as I want to be. She suggested I see an escort maybe from time to time to spice things up. We both agreed that could be fun, but would like me to stick to oral with kissing and keep sex special for us.

How stupid would it be to have unprotected oral sex with a escort and then come home and have sex with my wife? I've read so much about the topic, but struggle to gauge the real risk. CDC states the STIs can be passed, but a lot of the research I read states that the risk is VERY low.

We both have the HPV vaccine.

Any advice greatly appreciated.

I've read a lot of what Dr. H. Hunter Handsfield said. Dr. Handsfield is Professor Emeritus of Medicine, University of Washington Center for AIDS and STD, and former director of the Sexually Transmitted Diseases Control Program for Public Health—Seattle & King County, Seattle, Washington. He has been at the forefront of STD research and prevention for four decades and is the 2010 recipient of the American STD Association’s Distinguished Career Award, the nation’s highest accolade for STD expertise. Dr. Handsfield recently completed six years as a member of ASHA’s Board of Directors.

He states: Oral sex is safe sex. It's not completely free of STD risk, but all infections are far less frequent from oral than vaginal or anal exposure, and the risk is zero for some. You can consider yourself at low risk for gonorrhea, but really not much else. Any theoretical risk for others, including HIV and syphilis, is extremely low. And this remains the case in presence of oral inflammation, such as gum trauma from cleaning or other procedures. If you think about it, you'll agree that various cuts or sores in the mouth are very common, and hence there have been billions of oral sex exposures in their presence -- and yet even the busiest HIV/AIDS or STD clinics rarely see patients in whom oral sex was the only opportunity for infection. The chances of other things (herpes, syphilis, chlamydia, HPV, etc) really are zero to miniscule.

https://www.askexpertsnow.com/search-results (Search Oral, click around, can't seem to link)

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/jaw7j4/why_does_no_one_ever_talk_about_the_fact_that/

https://www.reddit.com/r/askGSM/comments/2fjdlf/std_risk_in_givingreceiving_a_blowjob/

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/mh0p9t/what_are_the_chances_of_receiving_stds_through/

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/e6qqce/do_you_usually_get_worried_about_stds_after/