To my single peeps, y'all are loved but this one may not apply to you. It might though, so read if you wish

Something I really used to struggle with was the fact that, when we opened up ENM, our lives got better from the ground up.

I wish we could have had that when we were monogamous.

Now I get this cool ass partner and I have to share them?! Makes you really think about all the time you took for granted. (Also, for the person who has to comment "he's not an object of yours to share" I know, I know, simmer down. This is for the monogamous couples struggling. Chill, we'll get there.)

But babes, let me give you a hard fact I had to face. There ain't shit you can do about it. You have to face the fact that you did take them and the time with them for granted. You did lose sight of the big picture. You did lose sight of your partner as an individual. You did lose sight of yourself as an individual. You fell into the trap of monogamy, complacency

and that's okay. You learned better when you did, and now you do better.

You will never get that time back. However, you have to remember this. They already split their time with you back then. You weren't the only one hit with complacency. A lot of folks really get hung up on the fact that they have to "share" their partner with other people. Baby doll, you already have been sharing your time with them. Work. Friends. Family. Alone time. Kids if applicable.

So, for my struggling couples with this issue:

1) You aren't alone.

2) You might be sharing more time, but you gain more valued time when you have it. You may not have yesterday, but you do have today and tomorrow. What are you gonna do with those?"

3) Take up a new relationship with you in your new found free time. What's that one hobby you've wanted to try? For me, I'm making hubs a blanket. Single stitch. 12x12. Pray for me, I have plenty to focus on. I currently have a very, VERY long scarf 🤣🤣🤣 I have included a picture for those of you who are crochet nerds like me and need a visual. I have been working on it since November. It might be done by next Yule.

4) I recommend for my couples who have overnight issues regarding this, a weighted blanket and a feathery body pillow thats squishy.20 pounds. Trust me, and you're welcome.

What have been your struggles with this, if any? How did you cope with it if you're on the other side of the issue like me? If you have never struggled with it at all, why? I wanna hear it all! Spilleth the tea 🤣🤣🤣