So we started out together just dating and we remained pretty monogamous. We decided to make it official, but we both wanted to be open. Totally 100% sought after by both of us. We have been official since September, but have been seeing each other since June.

Over some time, I have observed that he has sex/ does intimate things with his other partners when they are together every time he is with them, but when it’s just him and I, we don’t really have sex. For a week I was communicating with him that I felt horny/wanted to have sex, but he kept telling me that he wasn’t in the mood. I left a couple days ago to visit family for the holidays, honestly pretty butt hurt that he didn’t have sex with me before I left. He told me that he was going to hang out with one of his partners the following day that I was leaving. He told me that he didn’t want to have sex with them, but he would tell me if he did. I’m pretty sure that he did do something with them, but that conversation hasn’t popped up yet.

Every time he hangs out with the people who he sees in this open relationship, he does something sexual with them.

I feel a little left out. I feel like a teddy bear that he likes to cuddle, but doesn’t want to do thing sexually with. It hurts a bit and I’m started to get jealous.

Any advice?