background: its been almost a month since my partner and i opened up our relationship. these the rules we written to stick to: her rules: 1. not driving over 30 minutes for someone 2. update right before or during break of things happening 3. theres no curfew, but hang out at some point in the whole day. if i cant, dont expect the next day. 4. prioritize your feelings. if you’re not feeling okay on a day, cancel all plans with others. 5. no feelings involved. if they do arise, we talk about it. 6. if gf is at home, update more because shes sulking in her thoughts. 7. when hanging out, dont be glued to phone. be in the present.

my rules: 1. update me before you go and do anything, make it clear intentions are even if you aren’t gonna do it 2. give me space when i come home, or you come home 3. i don’t need full details, but i would to know if you fucked, no cum inside, and anything crazy. 4. theres no curfew, but hang out at some point in the whole day. 5. go into this with intentions of no feelings involved. if they do arise, we talk about it. 6. when hanging out, dont be glued to phone. be in the present.

unfortunately we’ve hit a bump in the road where she doesn’t want me seeing someone anymore because she thinks i am trying too hard. in her own words, i should have never drove 1.5 hours for a girl because that means i like her. she also said that im generally fighting too hard to keep this one girl as a partner because ive been bringing up keeping this line open even though she seems uncomfortable with her. we don’t have veto powers but i dont really like making her feel uncomfortable. i feel like im truly casual with this person, no feelings involved, but she’s accusing me of lying about this and wanting me to cut her off as a result. cutting her off isn’t really the problem for me however, its the idea that my girlfriend won’t believe the words coming out my mouth. what can i do?