I have an autoimmune disorder, so even contracting an STI could mean bad things for me and possibly send me into a relapse.

My partner and I had an agreement that we won’t engage with people who aren’t as safe as is possible, i.e., recently tested and okay to use protection.

The first slip-up happened today when he briefly kissed a stranger who came onto him at a club.

This made me realise that perhaps our agreement is not all that sustainable. I’m also at a loss around how to make sure my partner’s autonomy/ability to have new connections/experiences is not limited while also ensuring I’m not at risk while also ensuring our sex life is not affected.

He’s going to get tested after a week or so, and we’ll have to practice abstinence till then and I can’t even kiss him.

Any suggestions on how to navigate this in the most healthy way possible would be very welcome. Thanks!