My partner [F29] and I [M29] are new to the ENM and there's something I'm struggling with.

She's started seeing a guy who is massively into sexting and being watched and watching via video calls etc.

This is something I personally have been interested in in the last but she has said she doesn't want to do.

Now it's someone else she suddenly has more interest in it.

While I agree that she is right, in that if we just did the same thing with our other partners that we do with ourselves then what's the point, I also think it's unfair that she's willing to open up with this thing with someone else and not with me.

Ideally, I'd like to get over this.

In my perfect world we would sexy for a month and then I'd buy comfortable with her doing that with someone else, but we now live together so this is unrealistic as we can hardly sext when we're in the same house.

I really feel like I should be accepting of her sexual preferences and desires changing over time but I am worried that she's going to change back to her old ways with me the moment we are apart if she goes on holiday without me or something.