My partner (28F) and I (26F) have been together 4 years and began opening our relationship as of a month or so ago. Sometimes it has been really fun and light and easy, but she has started seeing 1 person consistently (with romance), and it is activating my anxious attachment in a way that feels all consuming. We have great communication and have been talking about it a lot, which I am very thankful for, and yet it is something that I just can’t seem to put down and have a good time even in our solo time together.

I can’t sleep through the night anymore, I can’t work, I can’t have a normal conversation about anything else (with her or my friends). It is all consuming and I am exhausted thinking about it. I know that these symptoms could be an indication that this is not working for me, and we’r exploring that, but I still can’t seem to take a breath from the constant stress.

Does anyone have advice on strategies to help put this down? Both in conversations with your partner and when I am on my own?