Been ENM for a few months now. We’ve had a great time and have met some great people. Everything has been great until tonight. Partner (f) had a first date tonight and we’ve emphasized communication is key. I’ve been really busy and have had a lot going on so I cancelled a date I had tonight not knowing she had a date. She tells me after I cancel and I’m a little envious but I know she still deserves to go out and meet this person. My expectations, and the expectations we have communicated had me assume she wouldn’t be out all night. Just first date vibes. I fall asleep while she’s on her date and have my phone on silent. She knows I’m asleep but still ends up going back to their place. She texted me but I obviously am asleep and don’t know what’s going on. I wake up in the middle of the night to her coming home. I don’t feel like a priority. I wish she had called me or tried to communicate more about her expectations for tonight. I’m really hurt, how should I process this?