basic gist:

first off it’s totally ok, i’d (genderfluid24) rather us just be transparent with each other.

essentially i was googling something on his phone a few days ago and swiped to search safari, and without typing anything the tinder app was there. typically mine shows frequently used apps so i was confused.

more detail:

a few moments later i asked if he’d been on it recently and he was like “no why,” so i explained what happened. he told me he hadn’t been on it in a while, and when he did last he was just looking and didn’t swipe on anyone. he then went on to say that he has to access it by swiping all the way to the right where it showed a bunch of apps? anywho, i just said “oki!” and we got back to it.

my thoughts:

he (m25) comes from a monogamous background and this is his first time being open, and he’s also a people pleaser. part of me is also being hyper vigilant because some of the ways he goes about things remind me of my ex that cheated from when i was 19-21, which is a whole other thing i haven’t acted on and am talking about in therapy. the idea of him not being honest just popped into my head though, so this is an uncooked thought and pretty much just online word vomit. let me know what you guys think though.